I need to write a little something extra after my post from last night. First, thank you to all who have already commented. I guess people really do read my blog! :) Second, I meant no offense. I was not trying to single anybody out or criticize the way that others blog/journal/Facebook/talk/etc. I was speaking more to society. I so understand wanting to chronicle the good--Of course we want to look back and remember the happy times! That makes the most sense. While I hadn't thought of it, I really agree with Heather. Sometimes you just have to say things are okay because it will take too long to explain everything else. Sometimes you have to say things are okay because if you say that they're not, you might start to believe it and then you'll lose it. I get it. Also, Andrea, I agree with you that sometimes the facades that women put on are to help them cope. You're right--If we make it look like we are doing it all, then to some extent, we have to be doing something.
Last night was a vent. I know it was a little harsh. I know it was extreme. I'm always amazed at how my posts about motherhood bring commentors out of the rafters. :) I guess that it's an issue about which a lot of people feel strongly. Thanks again for the comments. I am always uplifted by hearing your stories and your sometimes different points of view.
It's your blog, write what you want and if people don't like it they can stop reading it!
ReplyDeleteI so appreciate your honesty about motherhood. I have only come across one good friend in my entire time of being a mother who I could talk to about this very issue, and interestingly enough it was when we lived in Madison. Up until that point I thought no other mother felt like I did and that I must be a bad mom for not loving motherhood 24/7. She and I had gone through some of the same issues with our new babies and could really relate to each other. We talked about the good, but we also weren't afraid to open up and talk about the bad. Thank you for being you!
Oh gosh, I hope you know my comment was not in defense because I felt offended! That was certaintly not the case at all. I really love and appreciate your honesty and ability to put it out there. Keep writing from the heart, mothers need to hear "the whole truth" LOL :) By the way, you have a lot of great commenters, I appreciate reading their thoughts as well.
ReplyDeleteI know, Kara! I just reread my post this morning and was a little surprised by how harsh I had been. I wanted to make sure that I hadn't offended anybody. :) Thanks for reading and commenting--I'm so glad that we're back in touch!
ReplyDeleteYou put it wonderfully - I couldn't have said it (and wouldn't have been able to say it) any better.
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